For Nazrien Ozir, shame has become second nature. Since her youth she has suffered from dark-colored armpits and a stench that cannot be masked. “It is certainly not my personal hygiene. I prefer to use non-perfumed soap and wash my clothes with detergent without parabens. ”
With her Surinamese-Hindustani descent, Ozir is used to shower three times a day. And even though it is an important part of both cultures, she has opted for years to eat as little spicy food as possible. “I also omit onions, because that might help.”
Over the years Ozir has learned to live with this shame, but it used to be different. “At the time it was a daily issue. I was scared to go to school; nobody wanted to sit next to me, I had no friends and was often alone in the back of the classroom. ”
No to a number two
TrustDeals did an investigation to find out what people are ashamed of. This shows that shame is one of the biggest shame, especially among young people between 18 and 28 years old. Of these, 59 percent of women do not dare to go for a ‘number two’ at work; for men that percentage is 44 percent. The explanation, according to author of De Poepdokter and intestinal flora therapist Nienke Tode-Gottenbos: men speak more openly about these kinds of topics and laugh away the uneasiness more quickly.
Shame has several causes, the expert knows. “For one thing, biologically we have an aversion to poo, a kind of natural disgust. We have to, because it is a way of getting rid of waste. ” We have also become more prudish; we are more ashamed of what our body does and has to do. “Then it doesn’t help if toilet cubicles are built in such a way that you can hear and even smell everything.”
Today more people suffer from intestinal complaints than 30 years ago. “That is because people did not know for a long time that such a thing as intestinal flora existed and were therefore not concerned with it.” In addition, we have started to eat differently in those 30 years; more processed foods that cannot always be digested equally well. This creates intolerance or hypersensitivity. Good intestinal health is very important; your intestines communicate with your brain and also produce neurotransmitters such as serotonin and dopamine. “If your intestinal flora is not optimal, this process will be disrupted and you will produce less lucky substances. With an intestinal flora that is in balance you will feel better and happier. ”
The taboo is the block
People don’t like to talk about shit, but there is a taboo on it. In many cases, this taboo is unconsciously the cause of the problem, because people do not dare to raise the alarm in time when they have complaints. But to get rid of this shame you will have to face him first. “If you have intestinal complaints, you have to investigate it properly. Sometimes adjusting your diet is enough, but in other, worse cases, you will have to talk about it and have someone checked it. ”
So talking is one of the best medicines for shame. And try to attract the opinion of others less, Ozir knows. Nowadays she has been given a light grind by the reaction of others. But still: “I am still aware of it every day. I pay attention to what I wear, for example no synthetic clothing. I also went to the doctor and dermatologist and had my armpits depilated at the beautician. I have tried armpit pads and 50 different deodorants, but nothing works. ”
Yet she is still looking for the golden tip. Because the shame remains.
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